It would maybe “soften the blow” if that were true, but this company seemed to have a very good reputation within the Elixir community, with awards for “best startup” etc.
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bgrommes
Quite so. I was hired into my current gig literally because they liked a couple of my jokes. I can’t have done more than middling on their technical questions, which were the usual out-of-phase, borderline irrelevant ones. But I left 'em laughing.
I was basically just myself. At some point in the interview I commented that I undersstand the perspective of the business and always had my previous client’s back. Hence they understood that when I requested resources, it wasn’t because I was caught up in some sort of “technical masturbation”. When asked what my biggest regret there was, I said it was being “addicted to the crack cocaine of high pay” and letting my smaller, less lucrative clients fade away over the years.
After conferring among themselves for about 10 minutes they hired me on the spot. He said I was the first person he’d interviewed who had used the words “masturbation” and “cocaine” in a single meeting and somehow it not only didn’t come off as weird, but as the exactly right metaphors. In other words, he was entertained. He said my interview was destined to become “the stuff of legend”.
So it’s possible on occasion to use this quality of the interview that you so aptly pointed out in your favor. Read the room, figure out what they’re actually fishing for, and give it to them. It’s rather like test-taking way back in high school; I remember realizing one day that I had to give the answer they WANTED TO HEAR, which was not necessarily the correct or best answer.
In fact this once backfired on me in high school, once I was on to it. I was annoyed with an assignment where everyone in our English class had to enter that year’s American Legion Essay Contest. The subject was something along the lines of “Why America is the greatest country ever”. So I gave them the most contrived, jingoistic bullshit parody of an essay that I could conceive of. You could practically hear the marching bands playing as you read it.
It placed third in the state, much to my humiliation.
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bgrommes
Yeah “dream jobs” are unicorns. I had one for a dozen years, that not only met your stated criteria for such a gig, but payed super well. Then the 20 person company was acquired by a 20,000 person company who only wanted to harvest the customers and the data and shut down operations. So now I am presiding part-time over the winding down of years of hard but enjoyable work while I work a full time gig that meets at least ONE of the criteria you mention – great co-workers. But it’s the most ghastly code I’ve ever worked on, bar none, plus it’s a very huge and difficult problem domain and pays about half what my “dream job” did (albeit still somewhat better than market rates). And the company is meeting-happy – 2.5 hour meetings are not at all unusual.
So dream jobs have that downside … eventually you must return to Real Life and it’s rather a bucket of cold water.
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bgrommes
I think it’s fine to state what you have deep experience with in a way that doesn’t come off as bragging (or humble-bragging). If you come off as competent and centered instead of vainglorious, it should not present a problem for any interviewer (except maybe one who feels threatened by the fact that you might outshine them).
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dimitarvp
Agreed, and that’s just the issue: a smile + a phrase like “hey, how hard can it be?” and boom, there’s one team that told me that I am an insufferably overconfident prick.
People and their bias. What can you do. 
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cnck1387
Honest question, how did you manage to move forward with this “other” job? I can get past the code and it being a challenging domain but cutting your income in half on top of all of that would kill me inside. I know you said it’s still a bit better than market rates but are you actively looking for another gig while still being employed, or going to stick this one out?
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bgrommes
That would be down to context, body language, perceptions … personally, I don’t recall a client or employer that was not convinced on an organizational gut level that their technical challenges were unique and particularly difficult, and even Never Seen Before, so their personnel tend to be invested in this at least publicly. So if you come in saying this sea-monster they’re heroically wrestling with can’t be that big of a deal, it could come off wrong.
In this life what’s real doesn’t matter. What counts is what Other People PERCEIVE. So I try (and don’t always succeed) in not giving them an excuse to form a bad first impression. First impressions are devilishly durable, even with massive contrary evidence soon after. That is a proven scientific fact, and well-studied.
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bgrommes
I have taken care over the years not to confuse things like what I get paid or my job title or my feelings or other things which are largely out of my control and/or bullshit, with who I actually am. I also have minimized fixed costs and personal debt because I knew this day would come sooner or later. There are no mortgage or car payments at this point in my life.
This cuts both ways, of course. Back in the 1980s I bid on a custom accounting system for a small-ish manufacturing firm. I lost out to Anderson Consulting at more than twice my then-hourly rate (this was before scandal took them down). I asked the prospect why they chose Anderson and they said that I was so much cheaper I did not seem credible. I immediately raised my rates 50%, lost two of my worst clients and picked up three really good new ones.
So I realized a long time ago that pay and titles and status are just bullshit perceptions, and that low-balling your rates is usually self-defeating in the long run.
By the time I came to this Dream Client, my going rate was about where Anderson once was and they paid it without flinching, and except for a brief rough patch cash-flow wise, did not throttle my hours; I frequently exceeded 40 in a week, particularly when there was a big “push” of some kind.
I did not raise my rates for about eight years. They were a startup. But as soon as they started turning a consistent profit, I went up by another third, where i was for about the final three years I guess. But this was a very specific narrow vertical that probably a dozen people in the US work in, for perhaps four or five companies in this particular space.
Now I am just back to the same rate I commanded after that increase way back in the 1980s which I suppose should depress me but you have to consider that I am being marked up by a 3rd party (not sure how much, but it didn’t used to be uncommon to be marked up to clients by 100%). If I want the higher bucks I have to put my direct consulting shingle back out or find a new niche (which is, in part, why I’m exploring Elixir).
In short, it’s tempting when you get a really high-paying gig to assume that now you’ve “arrived” somehow and established some kind of proven floor to your income. In reality you just got lucky for a season.
So it goes.
And yes, while I’m not on a push, I am open to better opportunities. I just did a first-round interview and 30 minute online test for a job with a smaller company on the Left Coast with a stated pay range about midway back up to where I was with the Dream Client. This was mainly because I forgot I still had an active profile on Hired.com. I am content where I am for the moment because my skill set has become a little stale and I’m leveling back up on some tech that I have had the luxury of ignoring for over a decade, like JavaScript and client-side in general.
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dimitarvp
Ah, no. I meant only a part the homework coding challenge – sorry for not making it clear! I wouldn’t dream of outright saying “hey, your projects are mega easy”. That would be severely misguided and overconfident indeed! Not to mention “speaking without having a clue”. I am not that dumb yet. 
I only casually remarked it – once – at the second technical interview, during which I had to make some modification to the homework, live, on a screen-sharing call. This was supposed to test my abilities to change code in the face of evolving requirements and IMO I did well (not excellent but objectively I’d give myself a 80% because I stuttered at 1-2 points and didn’t arrive at the best changes there quickly). But when I remarked “oh, that’s easy” for one of the requested changes, apparently that rubbed some of the interviewing team the wrong way, severely.
I find it weird to this day, even if that interview was like ~10 months ago.
(I hope my current employer doesn’t think this comment is aimed at them; we had a very similar process with them but they were much more positive and careful in their judgement of my personality.)
Oh, absolutely. Beautifully put. I am completely with you but I still struggle to practice this in a way that minimizes (or even eliminates) the possibility of being misunderstood for overconfident. I do very well in that department for, say, 75-80% of the time, but can’t bring myself to address the rest of the cases.
As I get older I just find myself not interested in people (and employers) who rush to judge. This could become a career impediment but the pull from my soul is too strong.
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